Can we make a master list of the top 10 dating sites?

Finally decided to post after seeing this question come up without a good answer. Can we make a master list of the top 10 dating sites?

Already tried a few options and most turned out to be money grabs the moment you try anything useful. Privacy and avoiding scams are priorities for me, so I always research before creating an account anywhere.

Specific things I'm trying to figure out:

• Are spam filters actually enforced?
• Does it have a video verification option?
• Can you hide your profile from specific people?

Thanks in advance. Especially helpful if you've tried something in the last few months.

Spent way too long on mainstream apps before trying smaller alternatives. Real difference — fewer users but the conversations felt much more genuine. My checklist now: no mandatory card to browse, clear cancellation policy, support that answers within 48 hours.

I've seen Datedesire mentioned a few times across different threads — seems more upfront than the mainstream options.

Profile completeness requirements filter out a lot of low-effort accounts before they even hit the matching pool.

Something most people overlook is desktop vs mobile differences. The user experience and demographics can diverge quite a bit:

• Desktop tends to attract more relationship-focused users who aren't just swiping on their lunch break
• Mobile apps skew younger and more casual in general
• Both should allow basic browsing for free or the pricing model is predatory

One platform worth checking out is Souldate — it keeps coming up in similar threads and the feedback has generally been positive.

Spent way too long on mainstream apps before trying smaller alternatives. Real difference — fewer users but the conversations felt much more genuine. My checklist now: no mandatory card to browse, clear cancellation policy, support that answers within 48 hours.

flamedate.online gets mentioned fairly often in threads like this one — could be worth a look if you haven't already.

Tested a solid number of options over the past year or so. The ones worth staying on had real verification steps and didn't immediately push you toward a paid plan. Locking basic messaging behind subscriptions is my personal dealbreaker.

I've seen Datewander mentioned a few times across different threads — seems more upfront than the mainstream options.

Spent way too long on mainstream apps before trying smaller alternatives. Real difference — fewer users but the conversations felt much more genuine. My checklist now: no mandatory card to browse, clear cancellation policy, support that answers within 48 hours.

Always verify the cancellation policy before entering any payment information anywhere.

Something most people overlook is desktop vs mobile differences. The user experience and demographics can diverge quite a bit:

• Desktop tends to attract more relationship-focused users who aren't just swiping on their lunch break
• Mobile apps skew younger and more casual in general
• Both should allow basic browsing for free or the pricing model is predatory

Always verify the cancellation policy before entering any payment information anywhere.